Most breakdowns aren’t strategic. They’re internal.
A lot of people don’t need another framework. They need a new relationship with themselves.
The struggle underneath burnout, stuckness, and “success that doesn’t fit” is often the same: a Self-Leadership gap.
When you don’t know yourself accurately, you can’t choose cleanly.
When you don’t own your choices, you stay trapped in patterns.
When you’re not living aligned, even winning can feel like losing.
This work is for people who are ready to stop performing and start becoming.
Listen to the Talk that changed my perspective
The Self-Leadership framework
Three pillars. One direction: from autopilot to authorship.
Know Yourself Accurately
See your patterns, drivers, blind spots, and strengths clearly. Identity beyond performance.
Own Your Choices Completely
Reclaim agency. End cycles of avoidance, blame, and self-abandonment. Choose on purpose.
Live With Intention and Integrity
Align your habits, boundaries, and decisions with what you know to be true.
The Tessa Tubbs Podcast
Short, honest conversations about Self-Leadership: identity, emotional maturity, agency, and integrity. New episodes weekly (30+ minute conversations + short, quick hits).
The Struggle for Authenticity
There was a season when I thought belonging required shrinking parts of myself. I didn’t call it that at the time. I told myself I was being adaptable, agreeable, “easy to work with.” In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, I share a deeply personal story...
The Most Productive Thing You’re Not Doing with guest Adam Tanaka
Burnout is normalized. Productivity is glorified. And many high-functioning people are quietly exhausted, doing all the “right” things while sensing something is off. In this episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa sits down with Adam Tanaka: founder, serial...
Leading Yourself Through Discomfort: Stay Present, Stop Avoiding
In this solo episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa shares practical, real-life strategies for leading yourself through discomfort without numbing out, spiraling, or escaping into overwork, overeating, shopping, scrolling, or people-pleasing. You’ll learn how to...
Testimonials
I have benefited immensely by Tessa’s expertise and experienced coaching. Her direct and professional approach always leave me with the proper list of viable next steps to not only improve professionally but simply to be a better human. She willing shares her expansive background and tailors a coaching plan designed with you in mind. Most importantly, her plans give results. I highly recommend Tessa Tubbs.
Lenita D.
Chief Executive Officer
I have had the pleasure of working with Tessa as my peer at PepsiCo. Tessa has a high degree of strategic clarity that is inspiring! Her unique ability to connect with senior leaders and maintain focus on critical behaviors is unparalleled. She seeks to understand her audience by being genuinely curious and sincere in her interactions. She displays extra ordinary quality of insight and judgement that gets to the heart of issues and produces prudent decisions. She is a great listener which makes her an outstanding coach. I continue to bounce ideas off of her and get personal coaching from time to time. Her commitment to excellence will continue to provide value in every way in all that she does and would be an asset to any organization.
Binwa Sethi
Global Talent Management
Tessa is one of the most dedicated, passionate people I've ever known. She perseveres when others accept defeat. Tessa is a highly principled individual who stays true to her deeply rooted values and ethics. She is a role model, a consummate professional, and a pleasure to work with. She takes initiative - steps up to the challenges in front of her without skipping a beat. I am confident Tessa would rise to the occasion regardless of the magnitude of the task in front of her. She's just that kind of rare person who has it all - instinct, talent, and integrity.
Debbie Blacher
Founder
I had the opportunity to work with Tessa for almost 6 years in a very challenging business with demanding clients. Guy Carpenter's leaders constantly sought her out for Human Resources and business advice and solutions, as did her Human Resources peers. Tessa developed from a highly effective HR Business Partner to lead the company's Learning and Development function. She was the key driver in creating the first training program to develop junior talent for future business roles. Tessa is an outstanding communicator and thought leader whose talents would be an asset to any organization.
Arlene Vaquer
Leader
Because of the strong coaching relationship Tessa and I developed, I was able to identify a better path for me to get what I needed for my family AND for my career.”
Michelle H.
Vice President
Tessa helped me learn to grow professionally, socially, and personally. I once had a narrow outlook on my development that coaching helped me expand to change both my work and family life.
Mauricio G.
District Leader
What if the life you built was never meant for you?
In this TEDxOldHickory talk, Tessa Tubbs speaks to anyone who’s ever felt like they’re living on autopilot – doing all the right things but still wondering, “How did I end up here?”. She explores that quiet moment when success no longer feels like you – and what it really takes to stop performing a role and start writing your own story. Tessa Tubbs’s TEDxOldHickory talk is for anyone who feels they are merely going through the motions—following all the correct steps yet questioning, “How did this become my life?” She examines the silent realization that a successful life may no longer feel authentic, and what is truly required to stop acting a part and begin composing your own narrative.
